I Am This: Able-Bodied (and privileged)

A while ago, I had a brief conversation with an old man who was annoyed at the sidewalks near the medical complex where my psychiatrist practices. He mentioned that the curbs used to be rounded, and that the straight edged sidewalks were a “pain in the butt” to step up/down. Now, I had just stepped up onto the sidewalk and hadn’t thought anything of it. That, my friends, is the very definition of able-bodied privilege.

Pretty, but potentially insurmountable to some.

This isn’t the first time that I have acknowledged that privilege. I have friends who are less physically capable than I, but most of my admonitions for lack of consideration have to do with the pace I walk.

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I Am This: Geek

I spent some time debating with myself on whether or not I was going to talk about this particular identity. Not that I am ashamed of it, but because I think that I might get some of the most vitriol about it. Strange, when I think about it that I was more nervous about being challenged or abused for daring to call myself a geek than pansexual, or discussing my journey to cisgender identification.

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I Am This: Religious (a guest post)

xavea’s note: This is a guest post written by my friend Erin. Since I do not claim all identities worth exploring, I have invited a number of people to write guest posts about aspects that make up their identity which I do not share. Please note that while some minor editing has been done by me (to fix typos, formatting), any other edits to content have been done by the guest author, but pictures and captions were done by me. The opinions expressed are strictly those of the guest author. I may or may not agree with the opinions expressed, but it is not my right to police how someone else crafts their identity.

Erin can be found on Twitter @e103084


Hey there, my name is Erin, and I have been kindly asked to contribute to this blog on the theme of religion as identity, as part of the larger theme of identity politics in general.

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I Am This: Woman

This past Tuesday (March 8th) was International Women’s Day, but I know what you are probably thinking when you see that title:

You’re not wrong. Listen to Helen Reddy, she knows what this is about. As a side note for all who care about such things, I do spell woman with an ‘a’ instead of alternative spellings like ‘womyn’, ‘womon’, etc. While I am not against the alternative spellings and their reasons for existing, I choose to continue with the ‘traditional’ spelling as I feel is is more inclusive and makes intersectional feminism less “scary”. A stigma – warranted or not – is that those spellings are used by “feminazis” (I hate that term, which I am sure will appear in my post about being a feminist. Those hard-line, exclusionary, man-hating, TERF-type “feminists” do exist, but that is not usually who is meant by the people using the term.)

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I Am This: Cisgender 

For those of you who are not familiar with the term, cisgender means that my gender identity (woman) matches the genitals I was born with. Since I haven’t had any genetic testing done, I cannot vouch for the state of my chromosomes and whether that matches too. As I currently am, the gender I was assigned at birth based on the appearance of my sex organs coincides with the gender I perceive myself to be. However, this was not always true for me. I came to the conclusion that I was a cisgender woman after a lot of thought and soul searching.

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I Am This: Demi-Romantic

This post originally appeared on my Tumblr in 2014. It has been updated and edited for clarity.

This is the newest label that I am trying out. I suppose I’m not 100% sure that it fits quite right, but that’s the beauty of being able to determine who I am for myself. [UPDATE: I have since adopted this label as part of my identity.]

I know it’s pretty cliché that the journey of self-discovery is more important than the destination, but I’ve been learning over the past few years that often sayings become cliché for a reason.  One of the best things about this being a new label that I’m trying to sort out for myself is that I get to showcase my process of finding a label and determining whether or not it’s something that applies to me.  
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I Am This: Pansexual

This post originally appeared on my Tumblr in 2014. It has been updated and edited for clarity.

There are nearly as many ways to identify sexuality as there are people who actually spend the time to think about what to call their sexual feelings. Many of these terms are fraught with underlying meanings, based on historical, societal, geographical, and generational context.   
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I Am This: The Importance of Labels to Identity

This post originally appeared on my Tumblr in 2014. It has been updated and edited for clarity.

For most of my life I have been trying to fit some label or another, and after a while I simply gave up labels altogether and refused to call myself anything but “me”. While I am still “me”, I’ve done some reflection on the labels that I have been slowly claiming over the past few years, and their importance.
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